Do You Fear the Ordinary in Life?
If not, you should!
We love our ordinary lives.
We love the simplicity of not having to think or create or deal with new challenges because it seems simpler that way.
But is it really? Is it simpler? Maybe, but also a lot more boring!
Think about it. When things are ordinary, when we’re avoiding challenges, we’re not growing. We’re not advancing. And I don’t mean advancing like in a job or career. I mean advancing and embracing our god given gifts. I mean exploring new and exciting adventures.
I get it. Not everyone is an adventurer. I am, so that’s how I operate. That’s how I stay energized. But a new adventure could simply be trying that new restaurant that just opened up or going to that wine and paint night you’ve always wanted to try. It could be taking a different route to work so you can drive by the cows at that farm down the road.
All of this ordinariness stems from the conditioning we get to “grow up, get a good job, and settle down”. So that’s what we do. Things have changed a bit. It’s not always about the job with a pension, house with a white picket fence, and 2.4 kids and a dog. But we’re still conditioned to settle down. We go to university to get that “adult job”, move out of the parents house and get our own place, and become responsible adults.
What often gets left behind is the adventure.
For many, their final adventure is their honeymoon after getting married. Then they have to settle down. Maybe, if they’re lucky, they’ll adventure a little more after they retire. That leaves 30-40 years of being settled down in an ordinary life. That’s something to be afraid of.
This is your wake-up call to change it up!
If you love eating out but only save it for special occasions (and it’s always the same location), try that new food truck you pass by every day on the way home from work.
If you love to travel, but don’t have the time or money for a vacation, find a small town you’ve never been to an hour or two away, book a hotel and do a weekend getaway. Or even a day trip to just explore.
If your evenings are spent watching the same TV series every week, pick a hobby to try.
Hiking, painting, knitting, photography, learn a language, gardening, cooking, geocaching, beer brewing, writing, weaving, yoga, jewelry making, volunteering, start a podcast or YouTube channel.
Don’t worry if you’re not sure if you’ll like it or if you’re good at it. Try it, and if it’s not your thing, try something new! (That list, by the way, is just a small handful of the hobbies I’ve had over the years. Some I still do, some I don’t.)
Fear the ordinary. Change it up. Create a life you enjoy, and then change it up again.
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