Stop Trying to Fix Yourself, You’re Not Broken!
A lesson in realizing you’re already whole.
In the personal development arena, we often come across the concept of “fixing ourselves”. We’re told we need to:
Love deeper
Think clearer
Trust more
Be more grounded
Be more focused
Be more/less emotional
and ultimately reach nirvana, enlightenment, heaven, peace.
Here’s the deal…
You’re not broken…there is no one right way to be. You love how you love, you trust how you trust, you are as emotional as you are. The measurements for any of these are subjective. Too emotional for one person is not emotional enough for another. There are more different ways to love than there are people.
Understanding how you operate* is the key to being the best you that you can be. Comparing your state of being with another, or with a fictitious standard is like comparing a frog’s ability to fly with that of a hawk, or even the hawk’s flying style to that of a butterfly. They are all designed differently and therefore operate differently in the world.
You operate* differently.
Explore how loving feels to you. What does it mean to love someone, or yourself?
Explore what being balanced means to you? Are you comfortable with chaos or do you need a strict regimen?
Explore what peace means to you. Do you feel joy in a crowd of people feeling their energy, or is quiet time alone the perfect heaven?
What about pain?
What about the self loathing or disappointment? What about the anger and frustration? What about the depression? Don’t these need to be fixed?
Again, you’re not broken, so there’s no “fixing”.
Do these need to be addressed, channeled, and understood? Yes. But they are not signs you are broken. They are signs that part of you is not being recognized and is out of balance.
Consider Eastern medicine vs Western medicine.
Western medicine sees something broken that needs to be fixed or cured. Apply a cure to a symptom until the symptom is gone. Fixed… until another symptom arises.
Eastern medicine sees an imbalance and something that needs to be brought back into balance. The symptom isn’t the problem, it’s an outward sign of the problem. When the imbalance is brought back into balance, the symptom(s) go away.
Balance, in health, in emotions, in work and play, in finances… this is what brings peace.
It’s not one extreme or another. It’s balance. Like a pendulum, some days we move toward one extreme or another, but each time with movement back toward center.
*How do you operate differently from others? You can start gathering clues with your free Human Design report.
What I’m Reading This Week
Here are some other ‘stacks that have caught my attention this week. Check them out and subscribe or share if you like what they have to say:
Ok, so I am little biased about this one, but Anna’s A Momentary Happiness really is one of my favorite reads…
It’s February and love is in the air!
And I have a special Valentine’s Day gift for you. If you have a special someone and would like to see how to plan your perfect Valentine’s date then this fun, free Valentine’s Day Human Design report for you.
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Whichever one you choose, enjoy getting to know your sweetie a little better this Valentines Day ♥️
I always appreciate being reminded that I'm not broken. Our consumer economy depends entirely on making us feel we're not enough (but if we just this product or service it will magically transform us to being "worthy." I also feel that while I'm not broken, I DO have more capacity to make a difference and much of the healing work I do for myself comes from a desire to tap more into what I am capable of and what I want to create.