When no means yes, and maybe is.. well, maybe.
Unraveling Emotional Authority during the holidays
Hello my amazing dreamers and doers!
In case you haven’t noticed, we are now well into the “holiday season”. Our calendars are being filled with gatherings, events, and in the case of my family: my other half’s birthday, his two daughters’ birthdays, and 5 of the (now) 7 grandchildren’s birthdays between now and mid-January (btw, #7 was just born about two weeks ago).
Busy times require boundaries. And the boundaries I’m talking about in today’s post revolve around those of us with emotional authority in our Human Design and how that plays out, not just during the holidays, but all year round.
So let’s get emotional!
~Suzanne
Today’s post started when one of my Human Design mentors, Vickie Dickson, shared a bombshell in one of her recent podcast episodes. Ok, so maybe it wasn’t really a “bombshell”, but it is a significant twist on a foundational Human Design tenet that many of us were taught.
Having emotional authority in Human Design means that we wait (through our emotional cycle) before making a decision. When we don’t wait, well we’ve all seen how that works out…
👉🏻You’re hyped up from a motivated speaker and when they present a great offer, you jump all over it, only to realize that next day, after the excitement has worn off, that it’s really not something you want to do.
👉🏻Or maybe, you’re in a good mood and a friend asks you to join them for an event the following weekend. Despite your initial thought of how you don’t care for crowds and knowing that you have other obligations, you immediately agree to go. Again, only to realize as it gets closer to the event that you really don’t want to attend.
What many of us were/are taught in Human Design is that if you are a generator type (have a defined sacral center) and have emotional authority, if your initial response to something is ever “no” or “maybe” that it’s an automatic hard no for you. Period.
However, that’s not always the case!
For us emotionally driven folks, an initial “no” might become a yes after waiting though the emotional cycle. An initial “maybe” response might become a yes or a hard no. Either way, we need to allow ourselves to feel through the decision. It’s all about riding through the emotional wave to see what truly feels right.
With the holidays approaching and requests for your time and energy will increase, you need to get into your feelings about what you will commit to and what you won’t. People get very excited about their holiday plans and that excitement can rub off.
If you’re not practiced in really feeling your feelings, it may be difficult at first. Your head will want to control decisions: “you should do this because…”
Following your decision making authority, whether it’s that gut feeling or intuition, remember your emotional authority as well and take the time needed to really decide if something is in your best interest.
As for that initial “no” possibly becoming a “yes”…
I’ve encountered this quite a bit since starting on my Human Design journey. Following my instructions, if I had even an inkling of a no or maybe, I immediately wrote off that option as a hard “no”, regardless of my emotional state. Even if a day or two later I found myself still thinking about my choice, I stood firm that it must not be for me since I had doubts at first. I didn’t truly let my emotional wave do its thing. Looking back, I can only wonder what choices I let slip by because I didn’t give them a chance to ride out my emotions.
So, long story short, a no might turn into a yes. A yes might turn into a no. A maybe could go either way. If you have emotional authority in your chart, pay attention to your initial response, but be sure to ride out your emotional wave and then see where you stand.
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