Your Defining Moments
If I knew then what I know now,
I was 12 weeks along in my pregnancy at the doctor’s office for a routine check when my doctor stated very matter of factly that I needed an ultrasound right away… to “rule out twins”.
Wait, what….!? Who ruled them in? When did that become an option?
Life’s defining moments hit us squarely like a cosmic 2 x 4 to the head.
Sure enough, the ultrasound showed twins. I didn’t know how to respond. I couldn’t stop laughing. Defining moment #1.
And then the nurse stepped out of the room. Defining moment #2 was about to drop.
I was informed by the doctor that yes, I was definitely having twins… a very unique type of twins, a very high-risk twin pregnancy. Either one or both babies could die at any time.
Boom, there it was.
At almost 57, I’ve now experienced quite a few of these defining moments. Some landed me flat on my ass in surprise while others blindsided and sidelined me for a time.
Somehow I made it through all of them.
If I knew then what I know now…
…navigating those events may have been easier.
I don’t know at what moment I began considering myself a “mom”. I was 27 when my boys were born and didn’t even have a sense of who I was as an individual. I was still getting used to the role of wife.
There was no longer “me”. Only my roles as wife, mother, employee (soon to be stay-at-home-mom).
I read all the books (there was no internet as we now know it) and tried to follow all the rules. I played the mom role well. I started a direct sales business to stay home with the boys so I also became business owner and mentor to my team.
As their dad and I grew apart, I kept the role of mom, but wife was no longer a real part of me but I wasn’t single. And after the divorce when the boys (in their early teens) went to live with their dad, I was suddenly no longer mom anymore either.
At 40, I floundered. I struggled with my identity. I had no idea who I was outside of those “roles” that no longer existed.
I was alone with the opportunity to become anyone I wanted to be.
Be yourself, everyone else is taken
This was a popular quote at that time, but I didn’t know how to be myself.
Now, 17 years later, I realize the importance of knowing who you are. And this is why I do what I do.
Human Design doesn’t tell you who to be or what to do. It’s simply a compass always pointing North. No matter where you go or what you do, your design will show you your true North, the essence of who you are regardless of defining moments, regardless of roles.
When you become a parent, following your design, you are still you at your core. When you lose your job, get divorced, lose someone close to you,, start a new business, or enter a new relationship, if you follow your design, you can be all those roles while still being you.
When life throws you a curveball, your true North will keep you on track and true to yourself.
This is why I began sharing Human Design.
Whether you’re going through a traumatic experience like loss or divorce or a life shift like menopause or career change, navigating it with your Human Design will keep you grounded and focused on the direction of your journey through it.
There’s no catch. I share the basics of Human Design for free. You can grab your free chart and explore on your own or you can join in on my free monthly workshop: Your True North: Understanding the basics of your Human Design Chart every first Tuesday.
Next workshop is Tuesday July 1, 2025. More info here:
Feeling stuck, losing your identity, not knowing how to function in a dysfunctional world is difficult. My goal is to help you find your true north and begin to live your life on purpose and on your terms.