Don’t Take it Personally
(…or The Art of Not Giving A F*ck)
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I’ve frequently have a thought that I’ve never allow to fully form or delve into… until now. Join me this week in a discussion about not giving a fuck what other people think.
~Suzanne
So often I hear older folks (myself included) say it’s easier to not take things personally since we’ve learned, at this age, that other people’s opinions of us don’t matter.
My question is, “Why can’t we learn this earlier in life?”
Are we really so insecure that we need everyone’s approval when we’re young?
Or is it that we just didn’t have someone to teach us this valuable lesson because we’re all (children and adults) looking for approval?
When we reach a certain age, where we aren’t concerned about finding a career or a mate, do we realize then that the opinions of others really don’t matter? Or is it because we’ve grown wise in our own security?
What are your thoughts on this? I’d love to hear them - from all ages and stages in life.
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I think even when I was younger I knew what I wanted and whilst I would happily listen to the advice of others, I knew my own mind well enough to not care too much about what other people thought.
Then somewhere along the path that changed and I cared too much about what others thought and that made me very miserable. Thankfully that period of my life was fairly short-lived (about 5 years). I think once we've worked out who we want to be and live by that, we care less and less about what other people think and trust ourselves more and more. Yes, this is an excellent reminder and well-timed as I had a little blip with this last night.
I think for many of us it took us so long to learn it because of the insecurities planted in us by self-involved parents. In most cases we were kind left adrift, thus constantly searching for validation in others.
Those are my abbreviated thoughts, anyhow - I could be way off LOL Thanks for resharing this...